We all know where babies come from.....

As I read the article in the Charlotte Observer about the "mother" who left her newborn in the trunk of a car - and then lied about the babies where abouts even though the infant was still alive!!! Luckily this story has a happy ending and the police found the baby and he/she is expected to make a full recovery. The child is in the care of Social Services at this point.

So here is what I often ponder - not just when someone feels they don't need to pay child support, decides they don't want to be a parent anymore, "dumps" a baby or shakes them so hard they die or all of the other tragic events we hear about - WHY DO YOU HAVE THEM!!! We all know where babies come from and we all know about birth control. Of course I am leaving aside rape or worse incest. But honestly people - a baby is the biggest blessing that GOD can give us - DO NOT take that lightly. God gave his own Son so that we could all be blessed.

I also feel you should respect yourself enough to not have a baby/get pregnant with someone who you know will not be there, is abusive or that you just know you will not have a life with. That goes for men and women. I am a realist and some relationships don't work out - that I understand - but if the writing is on the wall - READ IT.

A child is a life time commitment and it will also tie you to the other parent for that same life time. THINK about all of this before you jump in for the "moment of pleasure".

If you find yourself in the situation where you think you can't or don't want to take care of a baby after you are already pregnant - REACH OUT - there are many organizations that have waiting lists a mile long with people who would love and care for your baby. Please don't let yourself feel overwhelmed enough to harm the child or yourself. It makes you no less of a person if you chose to put your baby up for adoption - as a matter of fact that is probably the hardest yet most loving choice you could make as a mother.

I have more than one friend who were blessed with babies that grew in their heart - not under their heart. And they are forever greatful to the women who helped bless them.

Each day I thank God for my 2 beautiful blessings and I hope that all the parents reading this will do the same.